What does it take to accomplish a goal? Often, we will wait to do something because we don’t feel like we have enough confidence to do it. We put it off and wait for the right moment.
I am guilty of this; I let a work bully tear me down for a year and a half while I tried to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I tried so many different things during this time, such as consulting while blogging. I didn’t know what I wanted to do, and my confidence was declining with each day I stayed at my toxic job.
And then, one day, I decided that instead of waiting for confidence to come around, I was going to have courage, and just go for it.
Confidence: the quality or state of being certain.
Courage: mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.
I literally hit my breaking point with the work bully, and I built up the courage to quit my job, rather than wait for the confidence to leave. It scared the shit out of me to leave behind a stable salary after we’d just bought a condo and I had accrued even more debt from my MBA program.
My confidence was at an all-time low because of the work bully, and I really didn’t believe in my ability to create value for others. But, I relied on courage to launch Style Collective in 2016, rather than confidence.
So, here I am again, at a crossroads of confidence vs. courage. We have been saving and planning to move to Raleigh, NC since we visited two years ago. And, last month, we found a new community in the exact location we have wanted to move to. I am just starting to turn the corner of profitability with my business (since I have been putting 100% back in for the last year) and am scared shitless to commit to buying new construction. I am an entrepreneur, so my income is not guaranteed. But, we are officially moving to Raleigh this October/November (yay!) and we are designing a new home (pinch me), and once again, I am leveraging courage during this process, rather than confidence.
I challenge you to think about the difference between these two words. What is holding you back from doing what you want to do? Is it confidence, or is it courage? Because I can tell you right now that if you wait for confidence, you’ll be waiting forever. If you take a chance with courage, you will come out stronger than you ever thought possible.